Tiny Person: Day 12
12 days! It’s been 12 days since my tiny person arrived. She’s already had 2 doctors appointments. The first they said she lost 6 ounces. The second one, which was today they said she had gained them back and looks very healthy. She’s grown a little now and is taller. It’s crazy how much change I can already see. Her personality is starting to shine through just a tiny bit and I can’t wait until she starts officially being able to recognize us by sight. I love this tiny little person who has captured my heart. I can’t imagine life without her.
Just before Belle was born everyone kept telling me how hard it was going to be, how I better sleep now, i’d never have a life and how having a baby was going to destroy my marriage. It’s odd that just before I was going to meet this amazing tiny person, people everywhere wanted to make it seem like my life was over and that everything was about to get messy and horrible. As someone who had never had children it was a little discouraging.
Jay and I had several conversations about it and we decided to not listen to their bitter comments. I’m glad we made the choice to ignore them. Having Arabella has left us a little sleep deprived and we’ve had our moments when we’ve been frustrated but in no way do I feel like our lives are over and that she is going to destroy our marriage. Actually I feel like I love my husband even more as I watch him interact with our daughter. I appreciate him more that we’ve gone through this. As he tried to rub my back during labor, and help me out of bed each day that I couldn’t do it on my own. He’s been a total trooper! I appreciate him in so many more ways… ways I couldn’t see or understand before our daughter had arrived. The more time we spend together as a family the deeper I fall in love with him. I am so grateful for him every day. And my daughter… she doesn’t hold me back. Yes sometimes things are more difficult. We have to take her out every-time we get out of the car and unpack the stroller… big deal. Eventually we will get used to the small changes and we’ll learn to get used to the big changes as well. She brings so much joy to our lives. More joy than we had before she arrived. Yes our lives have changed… but not in the negative and biter ways that people said it would. Those people were most simply… Wrong. Every sleepless hour, every cut, every scar, every extra pound, every inconvenience… is completely worth being able to hold and love this tiny person each day.
Children are truly a blessing and I don’t understand how anyone would say they ruin a marriage. Yes, life does change after having children, but that’s something we expect and should be willing to do when we decide to have kiddos. Don’t listen to anyone’s negativity. You are an amazing mother. She is so sweet. I love looking at all of her pics. ♥♥♥
🙂 Thanks Angela! It’s always strange to me when people get bitter about children… I’m not quite sure what they are smoking. I know that kids make things more of an adventure but I can’t say that they ruin marriages. I think selfishness ruins marriage… not kids.
We (Devin and I) are SO glad that you and Jay realize that while baby changes life, it’s the end of nothing just the beginning of a bigger, more engrossing love. There is a reason that babies are called a blessing and while there are days when the little things make that hard to see, it is always the truth. My life would not be complete without the joys, struggles, challenges and love my son’s have given me. I’m sure Arabella will be just as much a tool in molding your lives as our boys have been for us. She is beautiful, like her Mother, and will continue to be (inside and out) under the loving care of her devoted parents. <3
Thank you and Thank you guys for keeping in touch! It means a lot to us especially with how far away we are from everyone!